Funeral services for Barbara will be held on Monday, May 13, at 10:00 AM (sharp!) at Sinai Memorial Chapel, 1501 Divisadero, San Francisco, CA 94115.
Burial will be on Tuesday, May 14, at 1 PM at Ocean View Cemetery, Fort Bragg, CA.
To get to Ocean View Cemetery (once you get to the Mendocino area on Highway One): Take Highway One north through Fort Bragg to Pudding Creek Road. Turn right (east) and then take the first left turn into the cemetery.
Because Shavuot begins on Tuesday evening, Shiva will not be observed formally. Susie will be observing informally, and visits are welcome in the afternoons and evenings from Wednesday evening through next Monday. We will gather at 6:30 each evening to share amusing stories about Barbara. (If we have a minyan, we will also say Kaddish.)
If you’d like to bring some food for people to share, don’t worry about Susie’s (in)famous food restrictions, but please avoid pork, shellfish, and red meat.
I am so honored to have known Barbara. A tremendous gift to the world
From what I understand, the Japenese do not have breast cancer like in America. They don’t eat red meat, lamb or poultry like we do in the US. Why doesn’t the Komen Foundation talk about this, instead of always asking for money? I read 1% is given to nutritional information. That is a disgrace. Opray 7-2012 magazine had this information on what not to eat to prevent breast cancer. Every bit of information is vital to a woman’s health. Did you know too many mamograms can induce breast cancer and too many alcohol drinks over a long term basis can induce breast cancer. I understand some people need mamograms, but some people don’t every year. Every young girl I talked to had no idea alcohol can induce breast cancer and implants can cause cancers had to find. How many women know about that?This needs to get out on twitter, facebook, Dr Oz,etc. Too many people are ignorant about this. There’s always a reason for a disease. Especially if its preventable. You are what you eat!
I am sorry that I cannot join you. I am living in Mexico now.
I saw the obituary in the New York Times the other night and started telling my wife stories about Barbara when we knew each other as children. I got out the high school yearbook and pointed out the many pictures of her. The memories started to flow back very quickly. Barb and I we went all through school together from first grade through high school, though we drifted into separate groups later on as kids do. My colorful memories of her are from those early years at Arlington Elementary.
I grew up right around the corner from the Brenner’s and spent a lot of time over their house. There were so many kids in that family that there was always someone to play with. I laugh remembering the one and only time that I ever played ‘spin the bottle’ was in her living room at one of her birthday parties.
Play time at school was really good exercise, and lots of healthy habits came out of that for many of us. Barb was a great athlete, and an extremely fast runner. Most of us couldn’t come close to beating her on the track or climbing those ropes as fast as she did. My most memorable experience was facing her on the Greek dodge court- both of us always among the last to remain. I would throw my hardest right at her and just hope she wouldn’t catch the ball and throw it back at me. Sometimes you win, sometimes you don’t, but either way we were always happy to be there, smiling and thinking about the next time. I also recall elementary school plays in which she was the solo singer. All of us were amazed at how she belted out a song, never shy in front of a crowd.
Here it is over 50 years later and I am thinking what it must have been like for my old friend suffering and dying from ALS. A singer and runner who could do neither any longer, just leaving her blog entries for me to read for the first time. Now I get to read her thoughts and realize what an interesting person we have lost. For me, it is sad to have missed the life of someone I would have enjoyed knowing. An old friend has taught me a lesson again, and I am not surprised at that. Thanks Barb.
Edward J. Goldman, M.D., Baltimore, Maryland
It’s a lesson we almost always learn too late, isn’t it? Just saw notice of Barbara’s death in today’s Wash. Post. Your words were very moving. & brought back my own high-school memories of a long-ago friend.